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Having goals – be it short term or long term – are important for children. They instil values of hard work, determination, and discipline while giving them something concrete to work towards. Although some children are independent and don’t need regular guidance when it comes to achieving their goals, most children need hand-holding and supervision to keep them on track.
Make it a point to take interest in their goals and discuss it with them regularly. Praise them when they’ve made small achievements. And when they seem to lose interest, remind them of their goals and why they made them.
If your child wants you to join them for a goal-related activity, do it. It shows your interest and support for their goals. This way, you can also show them how enjoyable it can be.
Check if the goals are SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) appropriate. Don’t let them have goals, for instance, whose progress cannot be measured or something that is beyond his abilities. If their goals have to be changed or modified, explain to them why that is necessary and how they can tweak their their plans.
Tell them about famous people who overcame odds to achieve their goals. This inspires and motivates them to work despite setbacks.
It is important that you extend love and support to your child. Tell them that it’s natural not to achieve their goals in one go. Assure them that you’ll be there to tackle hurdles together and to celebrate their success.
It’s not uncommon for children to get distracted from their goals sometimes. You just need to sit down with them and calmly talk about why they are lagging behind. Find out the root cause and tackle it accordingly. It could be because they find the goals too boring, or maybe all they need is a little prodding. So, don’t scold your children and just interact with them. Remember, conversation is key to building strong relationships and establishing trust.
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